This One is For All the Single Ladies!

     In my 29 and almost 1/2 years (GASP!) of being alive, I somehow have managed to remain single! I really don't know how this happened. It certainly isn't something that I planned! I've been thinking about all the things I've learned while never having a boyfriend. Misconceptions and light-bulb moments I've had along the way. Here are my top 10!

10. Hands down, men are the most confusing creatures on planet Earth. Period. Not even kidding.

9. Guys are only human. Since they are the stronger sex, I tend to think they have it all figured out. News Flash! They don't. They don't have some master plan in mind. They don't know what they are doing any more than I do. They have insecurities, doubts, and weaknesses. They are figuring out life just as I am.

8. I am a rather independent girl. I have had to learn to do things that I didn't know how to do. I have had to learn to do many things alone. I don't need a man to be happy. I can recall times when married women my age have said they couldn't handle being single. In my world, they would have to learn really quickly, because they wouldn't have a choice! 

7. Although I fully understand I don't need a man, I've learned that it's ok to want a relationship with one. 

6. People call men dogs to insult them. I have decided that is actually a complement. My dog loves me unconditionally, cries when I leave, and is excited to see me when I come home! If only it were that easy to get a guy to feel that way for me lol! :)

5. I used to love sappy romance movies. Not anymore. They make me sick! Nothing happens like that in real life. 

4. Love is not something you earn or deserve. It is a gift from God. Sadly, I don't think most people view it this way.

3. My value as a person isn't determined by what guys think of me. I've often felt I wasn't good enough for a relationship and that's why I've never had one. Not true. 

2. Beauty is not based on size. This one is really important to me. I've always believed guys don't want a relationship with me because I'm short and curvier. I've always thought I wasn't pretty enough or skinny enough. I don't know why I started thinking this. Obviously, there are married women of all different shapes and sizes. In my head I know this, but making my heart believe is harder at times. I am learning to embrace the attributes I have and remember that a beautiful spirit and heart is what truly matters most.

1. God is ultimately in control. There is no formula I can follow to get to the desired outcome. He makes no sense to me. I don't understand why He hasn't allowed me to experience dating someone. I don't understand why I have this unusual story. I really don't. There is SO much I don't understand about what He has done and is doing in my life. I get really discouraged at times. All I can do is follow His leading and trust that He has a plan for my life even though it doesn't make sense to me. (Which is so difficult!) This may sound very "religious" but I really mean it. 


Well, there they are! My top 10 list of things I've learned while never having a boyfriend. I hope this encourages all the single ladies out there! Being single has its hard moments, but overall I think I have a rockin' good time! Living, laughing, and loving! :)